People of faith: four questions with Tom Henderson

Tom Henderson

1.  Tell me about yourself (church, family, work, etc.)

I am married to a wonderful woman named Debra. We've been married for 15 years this past May. Our relationship has been tested, and our foundation has proven solid. I can honestly say that we love each other more every day.

We attend livingWaters Church in Lakeville, Minn. I play bass guitar and electric guitar there, and that is one of my true passions. I love to exercise my creativity in music for the good of the body (as long as I keep in tune...)

I work as a software developer at Data Recognition Corporation. God has blessed me with skills that I need to be able to support my family, and to be a blessing to others.

In my spare time, I enjoy reading, movies, and writing on my blog: http://www.hendersonhome.net/tom.

2.  What are some of the highlights of your Christian walk?

Two seasons come to mind, and they ran concurrently. The first one was leading a group of men through two life-change programs:  Heart of a Warrior and Focus of a Warrior (more information about these can be found at http://heartofawarrior.typepad.com). I had already been through Heart of a Warrior, but found that taking it again, and leading it, was much more enriching. For the two years that I was in Heart of a Warrior (both times), I felt God's presence more closely than I ever have before. It was as if my faith took one or two quantum leaps. During Focus of a Warrior, I struggled through a drier period of my walk, but I learned to trust in God more, instead of worrying about my walk with Him.

The other season occurred while I was leading my group in Heart of a Warrior. Our only child, Ian, was diagnosed with a Diffuse Intrinsic Pontine Glioma when he was six. He fought bravely through radiation treatments, but ultimately went home to be with our Lord nine months later. During that time, I saw God come around us through friends, family and strangers. God used others to provide support, encouragement and hope. We also saw the Lord use a seven-year old boy to touch lives in a mighty way. People were drawn closer to Him because of Ian's witness; what more could a parent ask for? I also received incredible insights into how much God loves us, His own broken children.

Debra and Tom Henderson

3.  How has God guided or spoken to you?

I feel God speaking to me on a weekly, even daily basis. It's in a very personal experience, the way intimate friends would communicate with each other. Typically, it's an insight into God's nature as revealed by scripture, or into my own heart, as shown by the Holy Spirit.

However, one memorable instance was shared with my wife, Debra. We had found out that Ian's tumor was regrowing, and were able to get away for a night together to try and regroup. We decided to watch a DVD in Chip Ingram's series God as He Longs For You to See Him. It's a great series that studies six attributes of God (His goodness, sovereignty, holiness, wisdom, justice, faithfulness and love). We decided that, in those hours, we needed to hear about God's love for us. Unfortunately, the discs were not labeled with what attributes they covered, so we had to guess. The disc covering God's justice got ejected right away. We started to do the same with the presentation about God's wisdom, but five minutes into the message, we were hooked. One phrase that resonated with us, and that we still cling to, came through loud and clear. In the middle of wondering why a loving God would do this to us, and to our precious son, it rang like the clearest bell: "The wisdom of God tells us that God will bring about the best possible results by the best possible means, for the most possible people, for the longest possible time." We found comfort in that. If God could devise some other way to reach the same number of people without taking Ian, He would do it.

What clinched our belief that God was talking to us that night happened later in the video. Chip was listing situations where people may doubt God's wisdom, saying "we don't know why this happens."  He was speaking in generalities, listing events like divorce and bankruptcy. Among them, he said, "We don't know why a seven-year-old boy gets cancer." Deb and I looked at each other with eyes as big as dinner plates. Did Chip really just say our situation that specifically? We had to pause the DVD and listen to it again. Sure enough, God spoke specifically to our situation. 

We don't know why it happened, and we probably never will this side of eternity, at least not in full. However, we have learned that we can lay down our need to have the question "Why?" answered, and can be satisfied instead with God himself.

4.  Is there anything else you would like to add?

God wants to speak to each one of us. I would say that He wants to speak to us more than we want to listen. There are times when I feel that God is being silent. He does use silence at times, but most of the time it's that I'm not letting myself get quiet enough to hear him. I have to wipe out the noise in my life in order to get a clear signal. That involves avoiding music, TV, movies, video games, and anything that might be a distraction. God can use those to speak, and he has before, but it's not the same as reading scripture and feeling the Holy Spirit point out a passage, saying "This is for you, right now."

In short, the King of the Universe is looking forward to having a conversation with you.

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